The idea of Romance

The idea of Romance

“My boyfriend is so romantic.” … “Yaar bandi bilkul romantic nahi hai.”

I am sure we’ve all heard our friends say this sometime or the other. It’s feels so nice to see couples around you who are totally, madly, crazily, insanely in love; the types that give you serious relationship goals.

So what’s romance all about? How do you know that your partner is romantic or not? How do judge the level of romance in a relationship?

I believe when a person is in love, he/she by default becomes romantic; they take extra efforts to make their partner feel special. But then don’t people complain after 2-3 years of relationship that the romance fades away? Why only relationships, it happens with marriages also at times. Romance in general means red roses, candle light dinners, expensive gifts, etc.; or rather that is what we expect from our partners as part of romance.

“She continuously gave him hints that she wanted the diamond ring they had seen at the store the other day. He wasn’t ready for it yet and said next time. But then started the problems. She said he didn’t love her and that he couldn’t do a single thing for her; that he would always think about money before her. He finally gave in and bought the ring. She happily flaunted the ring in front of friends. Her friends wished their boyfriends’ were also this romantic.”

Romance is not an emotion that you ask for. Romance is when on your birthday he surprises you with a ring when you expected chocolates and flowers. Romance is when after a long day she prepares a special dinner for the two of you. Romance is when on a weekend the two of you cuddle on the sofa & watch a movie.

There is no level of romance. You cannot measure an emotion. It needs to be felt. It’s in the little gestures that you do for each other, the time you spend together. It’s the feeling of love, the feeling that makes each passing moment special. It can be something as simple as a walk on the beach or a long drive in the rains.

“Romance is thinking about your significant other, when you are supposed to be thinking about something else.” ― Nicholas Sparks