All about Fraaandship …

All about Fraaandship …

Friendship is a very big word in our lives today. At times, we trust our friends more than we trust our parents or girlfriend/ boyfriend. We consult them before we take certain important decisions. We run to them when we need important suggestions or when we need a shoulder to cry on. Friendship is also a relation that you share with your siblings, your parents or for instance with your grandparents too.

It is the most beautiful relation in your life. You always have someone who will stand up for you when needed; someone who will bring you back to your senses when you are wrong. A friend is someone who can be the sibling you never had, or your second parents; someone who’ll show you the mirror whenever the need be. They are the ones who promise to stand by you, no matter what! They have seen you through all your ups and downs; been there to pick you up when you were drunk n passed out. The ones who motivated, inspired and pushed you to fulfill your dreams. They have never let you feel alone.

We all have friends who’ve been there since childhood (our chaddi-buddies), those who we’ve met in schools and colleges; even our colleagues turned out to be great friends.

But in reality how many of them have fulfilled their promise of always being there?

We have all lost friends as we have sailed through time in life, some due to ego issues, or maybe jealousy; some have just walked away never to return. You have been hurt. I have been hurt. But that’s not the end.

If there are ego issues, try sorting them. If it’s about jealousy, why not do something for your friend to make them feel special. For those who walked away, the only thing possible is being a well-wisher. Friendship doesn’t mean that you always have to be there. Sometimes giving your friend their much needed space is what is best for the two of you.

“Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it’s all over.” – Octavia Butler

Friendship is not something that you hold tight. You never hold grudges against friends, even if you aren’t together anymore. If ex-lovers can be friends, why is it difficult for us to maintain our relations?

What’s important to remember is that we all change and mature with time. Sometimes things that we may not like in our friend might be vice versa for us too. It’s important to understand each other rather than blaming one another. If we need a shoulder to cry on, we also need to someone else’s shoulder. We must trust each other to believe that in the end everything will fall in place; years of friendship don’t just vanish in thin air.

“They say nothing lasts forever …dreams change, trends come and go, but friendships never go out of style.” – Carrie, Sex And The City.

Life is beyond what we believe.!

Life is beyond what we believe.!

Whatsapp, Facebook, Twitter and Snapchat. What is common in all these four stuffs ? In today’s date , these are the ultimate lifelines in order to survive the world. Sometimes, we rely on these applications so much , that we forget the essence of the Real Connect. Rather than creating memories , we kind of just let them go. A person whom we talk to via these applications is the person who actually exists in this world, and definitely not an imaginary character, so why not talk rather than chat , why not meet rather than plainly planning to meet up and etc. Why not just kill that virtual connect and start exploring the real connect?

Instead of that coffee smiley , why not take me for one ? Rather than texting me that you miss me , why not meet up ? These days, whenever you come across your birthday, everybody makes sure that they change their display pictures and put up status, in order to make you feel special. Admitting that it is quite a nice effort but just imagine this, for instance, that every contact in your whatsapp group turns up at your place and gets a cake to make that day quite special in your life.

Two situations. Two different acts. Two kind of memories. Even you know which is the deserving one.

So this story starts when I joined college and the first day happened. Things were perfect as I was meeting new people and new connections started taking place. After weeks of college, I was finally allotted the required class, where I was supposed to spend my entire first year. With every passing day, I went on building my connections and finally found my coolest group with whom I used to hang out in college. But there were some connections which existed for me , even outside the group. Sameer was one of them.

Initially, during the entire first month in my class, I wasn’t aware about each and everyone, but with the flow of time, I came to know about that every classmate I was studying with. And then, I came across Sameer. He wasn’t that typical guy whom I used to talk in my class, but there was some sort of connection between us , which made me aware about his existence. A few days later, as usual, I sent him a request on Facebook, added him on Whatsapp and followed him on Instagram. He reciprocated as well.

And , hence conversations started. The weirdest or the interesting part of this story was that we never spoke in college. He was always involved in his group and I was involved in mine. College kept us quite busy, with, not even giving us time to notice one another. But after college, we made sure that we spent some time via mediums, in order to getting to know each other.

He laughed at my silly jokes and I made fun of his photos and this went on for the entire year. I made sure that every word in my mind and heart reach his. Even he would do the same. But we never spoke in front of people.

It was just that I was quite comfortable with him and he would be with me, but only virtually. That was the point of pain. We both started believing that our conversations , laughs and moments would always exist within that virtual space which we had created for ourselves. The virtual connectivity was so beautiful between us, that we did not even think that we could have connected so well if we could break that glass of virtuality. But then things did not happen that way. And, hence, even after a year of our college, that is, even today, we are just continuing in the same way.

So mediums like Facebook and Whatsapp may help you to start that friendship with different sorts of people, but what is the point if we can’t end up meeting them in real and talk? The real conversation quite matters. Social media can be a part of your life , but don’t make it so mainstream that it screws a part of that charming personality of yours.

According to a survey report, out of every 10 people, 7 to 8 people may be quite active and sound too confident over social media but screws it when it comes to that real face to face conversation.

57% of people talk to people more online than they do in real life. And its high time that we should stop using social media to impress people, and hence, should be used to impact people.

 

And talking about Sameer, that name still makes me blush and gives me no guts to talk yet.

 

 

To Do or Not to Do!!

To Do or Not to Do!!

Haven’t we all, at some point in time, faced confusion or difficulties in deciding what we want from life? We may have the best possible job which amply feeds your bank account at the end of each month, but we somehow aren’t entirely satisfied. Why is that?

“Have two hobbies; one that pays you and the other that brightens up your heart”. We all want to do what makes us happy. Some of us would want to pen down our most beautiful thoughts, while others would love to capture moments into colorful memories. List of activities we want to do and love to do is endless. Unfortunately, not everyone gets to do that for a living. Most of us bow down to parental pressure or logic. It could be because it’s out of love and respect, or perhaps we are too naive to see what we want and what are we being handed. We are taught to perform outstandingly and are expected to think out of the box or even stand out of the crowd but what we are really being asked to do is to follow the crowd.

Now the question is, why aren’t we chasing our dreams? Most of us are ambitious, no doubt. What we need to ask ourselves is that are we ambitious towards things we want or is it towards the expectations placed upon us by our peers or the society?  Quite often we are caught between our dreams and the reality. Eventually, that puts us on one of the three paths; we realize that the reality is a lot better than our dreams; or we accept the reality and realize it to be what we wanted to do in the first place; or live a life of denial that it is what we want where in fact it isn’t. This is where we sacrifice dreams and turn into robotic beings. Perhaps it would lead to success but at what cost? A life of everlasting regret, I reckon.

Each one of us has voices inside us… it is our conscience! It is good to listen to them at times. Having a hectic time at work or lecture filled classes at college? Take a break. A break has never harmed anyone.

It need not be a long one. Even if it’s just one weekend, we would do well to break free from our day to day monotonous routine. Travel, make memories, capture them. Money never stays; what stays are the memories. Make them in plenty.

Life is too short to be boring, make this ride worthwhile and memorable. Don’t we all have memories of childhood? Then why can’t we have memories of adulthood?

Today, we all have grown up, too practical and too logical. We decide our present based on our future. But shouldn’t our future be dependent on our present? Let the child in us live its life. You are never too old to have fun or live the life you want.

So don’t always give in to your parents or society or the world. Stop thinking and start dreaming. Let your inner voices do their share of talking. Feel your deepest and strongest desires. That will clear all the doubts and put you on the right path…