Friendship is a very big word in our lives today. At times, we trust our friends more than we trust our parents or girlfriend/ boyfriend. We consult them before we take certain important decisions. We run to them when we need important suggestions or when we need a shoulder to cry on. Friendship is also a relation that you share with your siblings, your parents or for instance with your grandparents too.
It is the most beautiful relation in your life. You always have someone who will stand up for you when needed; someone who will bring you back to your senses when you are wrong. A friend is someone who can be the sibling you never had, or your second parents; someone who’ll show you the mirror whenever the need be. They are the ones who promise to stand by you, no matter what! They have seen you through all your ups and downs; been there to pick you up when you were drunk n passed out. The ones who motivated, inspired and pushed you to fulfill your dreams. They have never let you feel alone.
We all have friends who’ve been there since childhood (our chaddi-buddies), those who we’ve met in schools and colleges; even our colleagues turned out to be great friends.
But in reality how many of them have fulfilled their promise of always being there?
We have all lost friends as we have sailed through time in life, some due to ego issues, or maybe jealousy; some have just walked away never to return. You have been hurt. I have been hurt. But that’s not the end.
If there are ego issues, try sorting them. If it’s about jealousy, why not do something for your friend to make them feel special. For those who walked away, the only thing possible is being a well-wisher. Friendship doesn’t mean that you always have to be there. Sometimes giving your friend their much needed space is what is best for the two of you.
“Sometimes being a friend means mastering the art of timing. There is a time for silence. A time to let go and allow people to hurl themselves into their own destiny. And a time to prepare to pick up the pieces when it’s all over.” – Octavia Butler
Friendship is not something that you hold tight. You never hold grudges against friends, even if you aren’t together anymore. If ex-lovers can be friends, why is it difficult for us to maintain our relations?
What’s important to remember is that we all change and mature with time. Sometimes things that we may not like in our friend might be vice versa for us too. It’s important to understand each other rather than blaming one another. If we need a shoulder to cry on, we also need to someone else’s shoulder. We must trust each other to believe that in the end everything will fall in place; years of friendship don’t just vanish in thin air.
“They say nothing lasts forever …dreams change, trends come and go, but friendships never go out of style.” – Carrie, Sex And The City.